Alone and Happy?
I remember reading somewhere that the average time between divorce and remarriage for a man is 18 months. For women, it's 11 years. That's pretty stunning, if you only compare the numbers; less so if you consider that women often end up with the kids, and getting them raised an on their way certainly has something to to with the disparity. Men seem to hate being alone. This appears to be closer to fact than opinion, and I believe this is to the detriment of our future relationships. I have a mother. I don't need another one. I like doing housework and "man jobs". ...
Cheater? Stop it. Now.
You are living in parallel universes. Universe 1: The Relationship- the house, the dog, maybe the kid(s). Universe 2: The Affair- the hotel room, the park bench, the coffee shop(s). If you are having an affair, you are making a tremendous mistake.But you can forgive yourself, you can get out, you can live with a clear head again. This is the story of Wendy. She has been on both sides. This is one of the most powerful descriptions I have ever read of what it feels like to be in the middle of this mess.
What Did You See In Him?
Raise your hand if you’ve experienced this moment. A relationship ends (usually badly) and in one quiet yet intense moment you query of yourself, “What the hell did I ever see in him?” Whoa. All those hands shooting up in the air all at once! Like a class room of a hundred-million nerds racing to be first to answer a Star Trek trivia question. Yeah, we’ve all been there. And it’s not uncommon for us to berate ourselves for getting it so wrong. “How could I have been so stupid? I should have known better!” is the oft heard refrain to the post ...
Casual Sex is Good For You (A Theory)
I found this post in Psychology Today, and thought it might provoke some conversation, so I'm sharing. Interesting... In the new film "Shame," an examination of the extremes of human sexuality, Brandon Sullivan, a successful, handsome New York executive afraid of intimacy, has frequent, random sex with prostitutes and strangers. At work, he sneaks off to masturbate in the men's room or extends his lunch hour with trysts. The movie harshly depicts casual sex as an emotionally disconnected, meaningless defilement, as reflected in the the title. Brandon Sullivan is never permitted sexual enjoyment. Instead, his getting off is presented as alienating and self-destructive. The only time he he attempts ...
